I’ve been married three times before 42 and yes, I’m highly qualified because of it.

My first marriage was common-law and lasted my entire 20s. We grew up together… and also grew deeply co-dependent. On the eve of turning 30, a light bulb went off and I realized love shouldn’t feel like self-abandonment. So I chose me.

Then I swung hard in the opposite direction.

Marriage number two was built on hyper-independence and hyper-masculine energy. I loved aggressively. I yelled to be heard. I tried to control growth, outcomes, and money because I thought love meant pushing harder. It didn’t.

After my husband passed and I became widowed, I did what I knew best: I worked. I built. I strengthened myself. So much so that I eventually became afraid of soft love… and being well-provided for in partnership again.

And that’s where this work was born.

Welcome to my journey of navigating marriage not as perfection, but as practice. A journey of unlearning survival, healing power struggles, and co-creating with God and self a soft marriage one rooted in safety, communication, emotional intimacy, and mutual growth. If you’ve loved wrong, loved hard, loved scared, or loved tired… you’re in the right place.